tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20589943.post114367496658236115..comments2023-10-30T09:04:00.112-04:00Comments on Tales of a Bi "MWM": DecisionsNatehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13642480079983859304noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20589943.post-1143760865626803632006-03-30T18:21:00.000-05:002006-03-30T18:21:00.000-05:00As I write this I am in my office, music I love pl...As I write this I am in my office, music I love playing through the computer (I do love the music), an awesome sunset sky with incredible cloud formations lit from below, a job I joke about but love, and a wife who is all I can ask for. <BR/> <BR/>The weakness is there - no denying it, but I do realize all I have and it is what keeps me at home.<BR/> <BR/>I do appreciate Cymber and Raven's good advice today. I will take their adviceNatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13642480079983859304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20589943.post-1143760156471999442006-03-30T18:09:00.000-05:002006-03-30T18:09:00.000-05:00I sense your weakness becaue I have it all the tim...I sense your weakness becaue I have it all the time. I've trolled the internet and e-mailed people (hell, I'm surprised we haven't crossed paths before, but maybe we have) and even gone as far as arranged something. But then something clicks, and the strangeness of how great my marriage is now settles in. Then I realize if this is what I really need then I need to talk to my wife, and figure it out. <BR/><BR/>It's too easy to just meet this guy. Don't do it without telling KA about it. She's been understanding, but there is a point. Even with the openness and honestly there is a line to be crossed. Don't cross it.ravenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05529743710855685440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20589943.post-1143737011957893812006-03-30T11:43:00.000-05:002006-03-30T11:43:00.000-05:00I would have commented last night, when I first re...I would have commented last night, when I first read this post, but Mark beat me to the punch and said what needed to be said much more eloquently than I could have. Even if your wife reacts negatively, you'll be in better shape for having spoken with her in advance of taking any action. <BR/><BR/>Honesty isn't easy, but lying and/or hiding something like this isn't any easier. Better for you to try and navigate this kind of thing with her support than to deal with all of the emotions this kind of thing brings up in you without her input.Cymberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10416641815594756306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20589943.post-1143735767412648032006-03-30T11:22:00.000-05:002006-03-30T11:22:00.000-05:00A good thought. You are of course right and I will...A good thought. You are of course right and I will discuss with her - whether there is an after the fact or not, though you do sense my weakness in the post.<BR/><BR/>Her responses never cease to amaze me and the strange thing - a future post - is that our marriage is better now than in years. Honesty does that, but it still is not easy. I did have the chance to discuss this the night it occured and just could not pull the trigger. I will.<BR/><BR/>ThanksNatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13642480079983859304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20589943.post-1143735313356947412006-03-30T11:15:00.000-05:002006-03-30T11:15:00.000-05:00Instead of waiting till after the fact to tell KA ...Instead of waiting till after the fact to tell KA about it why don't you tell her now. Tell her that this guy e-mailed you and you hate that you feel torn about it. You don't want to met him because you don't want to hurt her, and you don't want to give into the selfishness of it (the fact that being with a guy is just something you need).<BR/><BR/>You may be surprised at her response. AND at the very least she's not gonna have any more of a reaction than if you told her that you did mess around with this guy. Just a thought.ravenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05529743710855685440noreply@blogger.com