tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20589943.post116361577986211445..comments2007-02-27T22:28:11.956-05:00Natehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13642480079983859304noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20589943.post-1164083556953324132006-11-20T23:32:00.000-05:002006-11-20T23:32:00.000-05:00I hope this process gives you peace. It did for me.marsmsunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20589943.post-1163967411579257662006-11-19T15:16:00.000-05:002006-11-19T15:16:00.000-05:00This was a really inspiring post, thank you. <BR/><BR/>I too am trying to understand who and what I am. Although I know that labels are helpful, I dont like them. My sexuality is fluid like the river in the sea, sometimes it rushes and sometimes it is calm.<BR/><BR/>Your inspiring! Thank you.Scotthttp://fluidsexuality.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20589943.post-1163868382075607662006-11-18T11:46:00.000-05:002006-11-18T11:46:00.000-05:00If life was defined by what is between my legs, life would be simpler indeed. Life is defined by what is between my ears, and that volume is hard to control - needs more than the proverbial cold shower.<BR/><BR/>The labels, I know they are meaningless, I know that I am bi and gay. But I also know that at this moment continuing to write bi/gay is a shield to hide behind.<BR/><BR/>I suppose the feeling is that if I write gay enough, if I say gay enough, if I think gay enough, it will help at least a little in the self acceptance I am finally making progress in.<BR/><BR/>Bear - I am glad you read this post because reading your comments over the months, I am not surprised your perspective changed. Thinking and writing it even changed mine.<BR/><BR/>Jas - the self acceptance will come. All of us who live two steps forward and one step back move slowly and in this case, moving slowly is good. It not only allows us time to work through it but it allows our spouses that same time and they probably need the time even more than we do.<BR/><BR/>Thanks guys, really.Natehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13642480079983859304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20589943.post-1163785823752278622006-11-17T12:50:00.000-05:002006-11-17T12:50:00.000-05:00I am with Paul on this one. i spent a lot of time beating myself up (no, make that I spenD a lot time) about labels. I realise that the label is meaningless. Gay/bi whatever. Not Entirely Straight.<BR/>But I know *exactly* where you are coming from. And as for self acceptance - what a toughie that one is. I am just struggling with self awareness in the hope that one day it might lead to acceptance. I am not counting on it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20589943.post-1163777028132792942006-11-17T10:23:00.000-05:002006-11-17T10:23:00.000-05:00A saying in my business: One point in time a trend does not make.<BR/><BR/>So, definitions are still called for: gay? bi? straight? But, does it matter?<BR/><BR/>Is life just defined by what one does with what's between their legs?Paulhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06474960825533581081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20589943.post-1163755627646456992006-11-17T04:27:00.000-05:002006-11-17T04:27:00.000-05:00wow, very revealing.<BR/>Friends: I am simultaneously saddened and relieved to reveal the same kind of truths to old friends. Sad because it feels that the whole time, I thought they knew me and I'd come to realize that they didn't because the thing I thought to reveal (about being gay) shifts everything instead of just filling in gaps. Plus, it's hard to find that quiet time anymore to share at this level as I grow older too.<BR/>Gay: the yearning was there for a long time I see...this has taken a slightly different perspective on your bi/gay-ness for me.bearhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17303698155753090199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20589943.post-1163729698183463982006-11-16T21:14:00.000-05:002006-11-16T21:14:00.000-05:00A truly thought provoking and honest post...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com