tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20589943.post228164849597533796..comments2023-10-30T09:04:00.112-04:00Comments on Tales of a Bi "MWM": ApprovalNatehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13642480079983859304noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20589943.post-56944081680896351832007-07-03T12:19:00.000-04:002007-07-03T12:19:00.000-04:00I too built a family out of friends. But in the e...I too built a family out of friends. But in the end, we cannot outrun who we are or where we came from. <BR/><BR/>I have some serious Daddy-issues as well. My dad used to get drunk and let his friends do whatever they wanted to me (as long as they kept providing him with alcohol). This started when I was four and only ended when I was old enough to stop it myself.<BR/><BR/>However, over the past couple of years, I've worked really hard to try and forgive him for my own sake. He's never admitted any of it or appologized, but carrying something that heavy around all the time will ruin the good things that come along. <BR/><BR/>Sometimes we just have to accept people as the flawed individuals they are, not as the people we wish they had been.<BR/><BR/>All the best to you. I hope you find what you need in therapy or somewhere else.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20589943.post-4446251552905944282007-06-29T11:45:00.000-04:002007-06-29T11:45:00.000-04:00You're on the right track Nate. Just don't over a...You're on the right track Nate. Just don't over analyze things to much. if you spend too much time inn the past, it inhibits your time moving forward.<BR/><BR/>I have learned to tell myself that while my parents may have had short-comings themselves and in my raising as a child as well, they used the best tools they had for the circumstances. None of us is perfect. The real task is coming to accept who we are and to move forward in our life journey as the person we are...enjoying what time we do have with whomever is a part of our life.Tonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03669260042419738091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20589943.post-50792046284295665702007-06-28T14:18:00.000-04:002007-06-28T14:18:00.000-04:00Nate, I believe the "search for approval" is at th...Nate, I believe the "search for approval" is at the core of everyone's existence. <BR/><BR/>Do you -- or Bob -- really feel that it is ever possible, or appropriate, to make decisions solely for oneself?<BR/><BR/>We live in a society, not alone on a island.<BR/><BR/>- - - - -<BR/><BR/>I'm sure that your father was a strong influence in your life. Most fathers are, whether actively connected or absent. But I'm not sure that I can buy the concept that your choices are a reflection of your desire for the comfort of a male figure. Bob would really need to sell me on this.Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11877772974936424670noreply@blogger.com